“How we deal with our inner world drives everything.
Every aspect of how we love, how we live, how we parent and how we lead.
Being positive has become a new form of moral correctness.
In a culture that values relentless positivity, I thought no one wanted to know.
Rigid denial doesn’t work. It’s unsustainable for individuals, family, societies and planet.
A third of us either judge ourselves for having so-called bad emotions or actively push aside these feelings.
We are healthy until a diagnosis brings us to our knees.
The World Health Organization tells us that depression is now the single leading cause of disability globally, outstripping cancer and heart disease.”
—Susan David, Ph.D., an award-winning Psychologist on the faculty of Harvard Medical School; co-founder and co-director of the Institute of Coaching at McLean Hospital; and CEO of Evidence Based Psychology, a boutique business consultancy
Credit: Susan David, Ted Talk, Youtube
Susan David’s talk really brought peace to my mind. What resonates with me most is around 8:04 of the video where she said “as we watch the ice caps melt, it is unsustainable for our planet.” I’ve been involved in a few works related to sustainability to the extent that my limited knowledge, skill and time allowed me to. But recent unusual and interesting weather patterns at various places including where I live make me feel anxious, worried and feel like the efforts won’t matter, things will get worse, there’s nothing I could do about it or even if I could, it won’t be enough 😦 According to World Economic Forum, the Arctic was warmer than some parts of Europe where the heavy snow showers took place in England, Wales and Rome. Should I care? Would I? If I do, why should I and what can I do about it?
“Discomfort is the price of admission to a meaningful life.”
— Susan David
What kind of discomfort is a true price for a meaningful life – for me? Now I need a long solo walk.
Anyways, back to Triathlon training — the first two months of 2018 are over. Time flies by super quickly. What new challenges did I overcome during these times? How did I improve?
- Completed my first winter half-marathon 🙂
- Biked outdoor for the first time with clipless pedals
- Learnt to be more patient with my body and training
- Learnt to be kinder to myself as I found out recently at a communication workshop that I am mean and judgmental to myself and I criticize myself more harshly than I would to the others if the same action was taken.
- Learnt to be ok with having what would be defined as bad emotions (feeling sad, anxious, unfair, disappointed, meaningless, hopeless)
- Used tampon for the first time in my whole life
- Used tampon for the first time to swim (nervously)
Previously, I set my training goals as followed:
1. More outdoor biking
2. Learning Bike’s anatomy and mechanics
3. Mental strengthening
They’ll be my focus for the next few weeks.
“Life’s beauty is inseparable from its fragility.
Emotional agility is the ability to be with your emotions,
with curiosity, compassion and courage
to take values-connected steps.
We own our emotions.
They don’t own us.
What helps people to bring the best of themselves to (family, community and) work, a powerful key contributor is an individualized consideration.
When people are allowed to feel their emotional truth,
engagement, creativity and innovation flourish in the organization.”
— Susan David
May I be free from suffering.
May all beings be free from suffering.